Usually, girls mature faster than boys. This process is even more accelerated in the FSU countries. Many children have an idea about the lack of money and food in here (it’s not a secret that the Soviet government sold corn while people were dying there from hunger) they have watched all that corruption and unfair proceedings of the country and the challenges of life. Particularly, Girls face some kind of behavior that could be considered harassment in some other countries; a lot of women can find a job and earn money if they won the favor of their male bosses; Most of the time, ladies are perceived as non-brains mere dolls.
Recently, there was a tendency among Russian/Ukrainian women to marry someone the same age as they, who were either their high school lovers or college and university friends. Statistics show that 50-60% of marriages break within the first three years of the union. Many women end up leaving the relationship after having children already, as well as disappointment in men their age from their home country. In this case, they would just turn to foreign men who are older and expect them to be more courteous, wise, and caring.
An additional factor in searching for older men is also women’s psychological perception. Since half of the girls grow up in “incomplete” families and the other half find themselves abandoned by their parents, when they search for a relationship, on a subconscious level they veer more towards older partners. In other words, these women search for their father figure. Sometimes, they don’t even realize it, but when they turn to older men, it explains their needs to find someone who’d take care of them and give them the security and the protection deprived of as a child.
Although such pressure is getting less in the current days until recently a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23.
Although such pressure is getting less in the current days, recently, a lady could be viewed as an old maid unless she got married by the age of 22-23. On the contrary, most men do not face much pressure to start making a serious relationship until they reach their 30s. That automatically puts a 7-8 year difference between the “wrong” partner in a previous marriage or relationship, and that puts available male candidates right in their late 30s – early 40s, which creates such a drastic age difference between the ladies and them.